Category: SECULAR living

The plight of the former believer finds a large and welcoming spot here. We put a regular focus on making a home for you.

A father speaks with his son because as a humanist parent it's important that you are talking with your kids about sex.

Of all the burdens of parenthood, talking to your kids about sex can be one of the most terrifying. Even for humanists, just thinking about having The Talk with our kids can send tremors of paralysis through every nervous corner of our bodies. Whether we fear not having the right info, explaining it incorrectly, or simply appearing as awkward as our own parents were when they had The Talk with us, the fear is real. But it doesn’t have to be. Talking with your kids about sex doesn’t have to be scary at all. And your willingness to do so will better equip them for safe, healthy, satisfying sex lives. It might feel weird to say it, but this is […]

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A group of secular friends raise glasses in a toast of celebration for the community they share.

“I recommend that everybody here join all sorts of organizations, no matter how ridiculous, simply to get more people in his or her life.” —Kurt Vonnegut, Palm Sunday: An Autobiographical Collage  Let’s talk about community. Specifically, let’s talk about finding your own local secular community. As in, a group of people to walk through life with you, to be there for you and support you. And who also, like you, just so happen to come at life from a no-gods, humanist perspective. Now, some of us who’ve had positive past experiences with church when we were believers would absolutely love to to recreate that kind of community as something like a church for atheists. Others of us had terrible religious […]

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The humanist compass directs everything we do here at

“Ambition is a healthy part of life if set in the service of worthy goals.” —Greg Epstein,  Good Without God Our Humanist Compass and The Point of Some may want to know what is all about. Others may simply be curious about humanism itself. So what is humanism? What is humanist coaching? And what, then, should we expect from this website?  Regardless of who’s asking, these are great questions, and they’re the focus of a new set of cornerstone pages here on As you’ll see when you scroll dow and click on the links, a lot of this simply boils down to building a better self for a better world. It’s about selecting “worthy goals,“ as humanist chaplain Greg Epstein […]

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Blurred lights portray the feeling of being numb inside.

That Post-Faith Kind of Numb. Feeling numb inside? If so, you’re not the only one. Someone reached out to me a couple days ago to ask for some help as they navigate the Numbness leg of their post-faith journey. Now, today I felt I could use a break from the post I’ve been working on about finding new community after leaving the church, so I thought I’d take an hour to share with all of you a few quick thoughts following this conversation with my new friend. We’re talking about the kind of thing where after losing your faith in God, you experience a kind of emotional apathy toward pretty much all of life. It’s where you just feel numb all […]

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Cars speeding at the intersection where the secular community meets the best of today's coaching resources.

It’s. Finally. Here. And by “it,” I mean THE SALVATION OF THE WORLD!!! [Okay, we both know that “salvation of the world” bit was a tad overdramatic. Let’s walk that back and try again.] By “it,” I mean a very practical/helpful/hopeful set of improvements to what has thus far been known as The Drew Bekius Blog. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve remained blown away by how helpful the questioning-and-doubting community has apparently found this blog over the years. The majority might not feel comfortable commenting in public or sharing on Facebook, but I see the private messages you send me. And the daily flow of unsolicited traffic stands testimony to this. But I’ll be honest, I’ve been wanting to do so […]

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Buzzing night sky asks us what we believe about life and beyond.

You’ve heard the question. If you don’t believe in God, then what do you believe in? The implication here is, of course, that if you can’t live for something beyond yourself—namely, a god—then your life can’t be all that worth living. It’s small and insignificant and certainly less than satisfying. So you better believe in something beyond yourself. But it’s a fair question: Can you believe in something beyond yourself if you’re not even a “believer” anyway? See, the hand-in-hand assumption often bound up within such a question is found if you transform the question into a statement. If you don’t believe in God, then you don’t believe in anything. In fact, I came across this very perspective (or dare I […]

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